The Dialogue In The Family - How parents can communicate with their children? Theoretically it seems easy, but in practice a dialogue with children is a task that is accomplished since they are very small. There are parents who, with the best of intentions, seek to create a climate of dialogue with their children and try to verbalize absolutely everything.
This attitude can easily lead parents to become interrogators or preachy, or both. Thus, they will not be on the right track to the family dialogue. Listen, many times, it is the most recommended way.
4 Tips for dialogue and listen to the children
1. Parents who only verbalize, children end up not listen or escape evasively. In these cases, the dialogue with the monologue and communication with teaching confused. Silence is a key element in the dialogue. It gives time to the other to understand what is said and what is meant. A dialogue is an interaction and to be possible, it is necessary that silences allow the involvement of all participants.
2. Along with the silence is the ability to listen. Some people make their presentations and give their opinions without listening to others. When that happens, the caller realizes another indifference towards him and eventually lose motivation for the conversation. This situation is what often occurs between parents and children. The former believe that the latter have nothing to teach them and they can not change their opinions. just listen to their children or, if they do, is a questioningly in a watertight position on the content of the arguments of the children. This situation is common with teenagers. This is one of the most frequent errors in the parent-child relationship: the belief that a speech can change a person.
3. Let the children speak. Through dialogue, parents and children are better known, mostly known their views and their ability to verbalize feelings, but never the information obtained through a conversation will be more extensive and important than the acquired coexistence. For this reason, it transmits and coexistence educates more than verbalizing the values that are to instill. On the other hand, any dialogue must accommodate the possibility of replication. Predisposition to collect another argument and admit that it can not match the befits one of the basic conditions for the dialogue to be viable. If we start from different levels of authority, there will be no dialogue.
4. Show security. The ability to dialogue is referenced security itself having each of the partners. Keep in mind that the family is a point of principal reference for children and young people: it can learn to dialogue and, in this capacity, promote important attitudes such as tolerance, assertiveness, dialectical skill, the ability to admit mistakes and to tolerate frustration.