Parenting Styles And Communication - What kind of parent you think you are? Depending on the words we address children can communicate an attitude of listening or, conversely, ignorance and neglect.
According to the psychologist K. Steede analyzes in his book The ten most common of parents and how to avoid mistakes, there is a type of parents based on answers they provide their children and that result in closed talks calls, those in which no no place for the expression of feelings or, if any, they are denied or underestimated.
What kind of parent are
1. Authoritarian Parenting
- They fear losing control of the situation and use orders, shouting or threats to force the child to do something.
- They have very little account of the needs of the child.
- Parents who make children feel guilty.
- Parents concerned (consciously or unconsciously) that your child knows that they are smarter and have more experience.
- Parents who use negative language, misrepresenting the actions or attitudes of their children.
- Parents who use comments like 'do not run, you fall you', 'you see, as I told you so, that Meccano tower was too high and would fall' or 'you're an incorrigible messy'. They are seemingly neutral phrases that all parents use ever.
2. Parents understate things
- Parents who downplay the problems of children, especially if they really think that their problems are nothing compared to yours.
- Parents who make comments like '! Bah, do not worry, sure tomorrow ye turn to be friends' 'will not be that bad, surely approve, wearing preparing you all week', intended to immediately reassure a child or young in the middle of a conflict. But the result is an almost immediate rejection of the adult, who perceived little or no receptive to listening.
3. Parents Speakers
- Parents who make the word 'you should, the most commonly used in situations' conference or sermon'.
- Parents who talk a lot but do not give examples in their attitudes.
Finally, we must mention the number of situations where communication is synonymous with silence (paradoxically). In the life of a child, as in anyone, there are times when the most appropriate relationship goes through the company and the silent support. Before a sermon father is preferable, sometimes a pat on the back full of complicity and affection, an attitude that shows availability and, at the same time, respect for the pain or negative sentiment felt by the other.