How To Detect If Our Children Are Victims Of Bullying - During childhood children fight, often they get angry and even come to insult. It is not that these behaviors go unpunished or inconsequential, but neither can be confused with bullying. To discuss bullyng, there must be a continued harassment in the time of a child to another. This is not a point fight, usually the aggressor has a permanent intimidation and provocative behavior.
Detect if the child suffers bullying
Bullying can be sexual, when a siege, induction and sexual abuse; It may be a social exclusion when ignored, isolated and excludes the other; It can be psychological, when there is persecution, intimidation, tyranny, blackmail, manipulation and other threats; and can be physical, when hit, pushed or beaten the beleaguered organized.
Bullying is staged in schools. As it is, mostly, an invisible harassment for adults, teachers are unlikely to have knowledge of what is happening through parents. The aggressor harasses the victim in the bathrooms, in the hallways, in the dining room, on the patio, reserving his actions during the absence of major. In some cases, harassment beyond the school walls, becoming phone and even email.
It is important that parents always keep an open and positive communication with their children, and the school in this way, we will make children feel safer and can tell their reference adults what is happening.
However, it is important to be alert if we find some signs in children:
1. Changes in behavior.
2. Mood swings, sadness or irritability.
3. Sleep Disorder. It costs more sleep and often have nightmares.
4. Changes in eating habits: eat compulsively, or lack appetite
5. They have psychosomatic symptoms. Often they have somatic pain such as headache or gut without an organic cause that justifies it.
6. They have physical signs. Let us watch in the event that frequently appears with bumps or scratches and say that it has been dropped.
7. Continued Refusal to school. When verbalize do not want to go to school, again and again, especially on Sunday afternoons.
8. Submits relationship problems and isolated. The child protest for not attending cultural excursions or visits, not to interact with peers and wants to be accompanied at the entrance and exit of the school.
9. Changes in school performance. The child may begin to lose interest in studies. Not only will lack interest as concentration and attention.
Parental attitudes against bullying your child
If we found that our child is being bullied, first of all is not culpabilizarle him or ourselves, that involves not be worse parents. It is important that the child feels secure and confident in your house, you have a good climate of confidence where they can let off steam and have happens.
Another key step is to talk to the school, can sometimes ignore what happens because the attacks are carried out in the absence of adults.
It is important that children receive social skills and resources focused not only defend, but to be more secure. Learn to be assertive, to be able to say what he wants, what he thinks, not impose it on others, and knowing that your opinion is as valid as that of others.
Learn to ignore the aggressor, that does not show him crying or getting angry affects you, but you can respond calmly and firmly, saying for example: "No, that's just what you think".